Whose Fault Is It That I Am Poor?

“Hindi natin kasalanan ang naipanganak na mahirap
pero kasalanan na natin ang mamatay ng mahirap”

This question was sent in by one of our subscribers named Mabini, and he asked:

Sir J3 last week, may nag conduct ng values formation seminar sa school, sabi nya: ‘It is not our fault if we are born poor, but it is on us if we die poor’.

I wanted to beg to disagree pero nahiya din ako, so i kept it nalang sa sarili ko. Bakit kaya nasabi nya yon? Eto lang po ang tanong ko. (very trivial) pasensya na. Gusto ko lang maliwanagan.

Not a trivial topic…

Mabini, this is NOT a trivial topic. At ako’y natutuwa talaga na tinanong mo ito. Bakit? Dahil yung sagot sa tanong mo, has a lot to do with what you call your PERSONAL FREEDOM and POWER. This is your belief on whether you can control the outcome of your life or not.

Bago tayo pumasok sa topic na ito, i-break down muna natin ang sinabi ng teacher mo: Ang sabi nya: Hindi natin kasalanan ang naipanganak na mahirap pero kasalanan natin ang mamatay na mahirap.

 

In English, it’s not our your fault if you are born poor, but it’s your fault if you DIE poor.

Now, yung first part na sinabi nya, hindi natin kasalanan ang naipanganak na mahirap. I think we would all agree to this.

No choice = no fault

After all, wala naman talaga tayong control kung sino ang magulang natin. Hindi naman tayo pinapili ni Lord bago ipanganak na –

“Mr. Fetus gusto mo ba ng: mayaman na magulang? Or middle class okay ka na? Anong gusto mong trabaho ng magulang mo? Doctor? Lawyer? Engineer? o Tambay? Gusto mo ba ng traditional na lalake at babae ang parents mo? O mas liberal ba na gusto mo ng dalawang mommy? Pwede rin naman dalawang daddy. Gusto mo ba first family? Or 2nd family? O mala telenobela na ampon ka pala, tapos may twin-brother ka pala na magiging karibal mo sa pag-ibig?

Hindi ganun ang buhay – we have zero control of what we start out in life. We have no choice. That’s why, we can’t be at fault. No choice = No fault.

 

Do we have a choice?

Now, yung second part is more controversial na. Kasi, sinabi na kasalanan na natin kung mamatay tayong mahirap. In English, it’s our fault if we die poor.

To find out if this is right or wrong, we must first ask if:

  • If we are born poor, are we destined to die poor?
  • And if we are born rich, are we destined to die rich?

 

Before you answer, let me share with you the story of my good friend from high school. Tawagin nalang natin siyang Darwin. Ngayon ang pamilya ni Darwin ay your average middle class. Hindi naman mahirap, hindi rin naman mayaman. Tama lang.

Ngayon, nung nag college kami, si Darwin ay nakapasok sa University of the Philippines, at huwag ka, Engineering course pa ang kanyang napasukan. Kung susundin natin ang so-called “destiny” ngayon, maganda na ang kinabukasan ni Darwin. Mula average middle class, pwedeng pwede i-visualize na makakakuha siya ng magandang trabaho, at most likely magiging upper middle class ang takbo ng buhay nya after college.

Pero hindi yun ang nangyari. Dahil naging pasaway siyang studyante. Imbes na Engineering ang inaral nya, siya ay nag Major in DOTA, Minor in Starcraft with extra units sa Magic The Gathering na card game. Hindi na pumapasok, hindi na nag aaral, natural anong nangyari? Bumagsak ng magkakasunod na semester at na kick-out sa Engineering.

Napalipat ngayon si Darwin sa isang hindi masyadong kilala na kolehiyo. At doon siya nagising. Dahil nakita nya na ang mga UP batchmates nya, nag g-graduate na at sumisweldo ng 30-50k a month. Habang siya nag aaral pa. At kapag graduate nya, ang pinaka babagsakan nyang trabaho ay most likely minimum wage. Ito na ngayon ang kanyang bagong “destiny”.

At hindi ito kinaya ng sikmura nya, sising sisi siya sa nasayang na opportunity.

Kaya anong ginawa ni Darwin? The first step, was that naniwala muna siya na may magagawa pa siya para baguhin ang buhay nya. Hindi siya nag give-up. He believed that he could still do something to get his life back on track. He believed he still had the freedom and the power to control his life.

Kaya nag sipag siya at nag aral ng mabuti. Kahit hindi na kasama sa school curriculum, inaaral nya parin dahil gusto nyang gumaling. Sumali siya sa mga contest sa labas ng university sa kanyang sariling initative. Sinigurado nya na pagtapos ng college, magiging malupit ang kanyang resume.

At anong naging resulta?

Well his hard work paid off. Dahil ang sweldo nya ngayon ay kapareho halos ng mga batchmates nya mula sa UP. Kahit na ba “destiny” nya na ay papuntang minimum wage, he believed he could still change, he believed that he is in control. And he got his life back on track.

 

Now let me ask you…

  • Sino ang may kasalanan kung bakit napunta sa destiny to minimum wage si Darwin? Hindi ba si Darwin din?
  • At sino ang may kasalanan kung bakit nabalik sa destiny to a very good paying job ulit si Darwin? Hindi ba si Darwin din?

Controlling life is tough, but possible.

My dear friend, you are in control of your life. And whether you like it or not, whether you believe it or not, whether you accept it or not… well you are the one who is still in control!

I understand that sometimes, kapag paulit ulit nalang ang nakikita natin sa buhay. We begin to accept na ganun talaga eh, wala na tayong magagawa. Kapag pagod na pagod na tayo sa buhay that all we can do is just point to others and find blame in the system. To make an excuse and blame the government, your parents, your boss, your company, your school, your teachers, everyone else except ourselves. These are the things we do, when we are tired. When we lose hope. When we forget about our personal freedom and power.  When we forget that we matter, when we forget that we can change our lives for the better.

Mga kababayan – you have the power to control your life. You have the freedom to desire, and pursue the life that you truly want and deserve. But for that to happen, we must first accept that we are in control. We must claim our personal freedom, we must claim our personal power.

 

HOW to reclaim personal freedom and power.

Now, let’s talk about HOW to do this. How exactly do you take control of your life?

I’ll be frank with you, it’s not something that can be summarized in one phrase, one sentence or even a full article. It’s not just a stream of inspirational quotes that you share on facebook. It’s not a one time thing that you just do today and you’ll already have the courage and motivation to take a step towards your dreams. We will have to reclaim and fight for our personal freedom everyday, one day at a time.

One of my personal favorite mentors on High Performance is Brendon Burchard, and he said:

“Think about a power plant – it doesn’t have energy, it generates energy.

You’re the same. Sure, sometimes you’re tired, but you must choose your energy level in life. Make conscious decisions that will generate energy. It’s the same with engagement, which is the number one thing people around you want. Your presence, your engagement with them.

People say a relationship loses its spark, but a spark is not a thing that you lose, like your car keys. That spark, that engagement was created between the two of you. You just have to fuel it.

And as for enthusiasm? You must find something to look forward to in the future, something that is driving you. You have to activate the first human drive for control, and realize that the future is what you consciously design it to be.

You must realize that a charged life is a consciously designed life that generates more energy, engagement and enthusiasm”

 

Dear friend, reclaiming your personal power and freedom will be a journey. And you will need constant reminders that you are in fact powerful and in control of your life. That you can decide to be poor or rich, happy or sad, courageous or fearful, determined or indecisive, fulfilled or miserable. Everyday you will have to make these choices, and we all need the help of someone to help us make the right decision.

The person who I rely on for this is Brendon Burchard. He’s an amazing training and mentor over the years. And he can be your mentor too. Just go to www.Brendon.com to check him out.

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